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20

Mar

As Alberto’s deathiversary approached this year, I decided to spend it outside my comfort zone. I accepted an invitation to the 30th birthday party of a NYC reader who was born on March 15. Last weekend, I toasted Cesar alongside his partner and relatives, a mariachi band and several of my girlfriends.
Seeing Cesar’s face when he unwrapped the Ferragamo tie I had chosen for him from Alberto’s collection was like witnessing a kid on Christmas morning. Seeing how fiercely Cesar wore the tie for his first day of work at a magazine was like seeing a layer of Alberto re-animated.

As Alberto’s deathiversary approached this year, I decided to spend it outside my comfort zone. I accepted an invitation to the 30th birthday party of a NYC reader who was born on March 15. Last weekend, I toasted Cesar alongside his partner and relatives, a mariachi band and several of my girlfriends.

Seeing Cesar’s face when he unwrapped the Ferragamo tie I had chosen for him from Alberto’s collection was like witnessing a kid on Christmas morning. Seeing how fiercely Cesar wore the tie for his first day of work at a magazine was like seeing a layer of Alberto re-animated.

15

Mar

Passing questions en route to a destination very different from the last four Ides of March (Chelsea, NYC).

Passing questions en route to a destination very different from the last four Ides of March (Chelsea, NYC).

The View from There

Before the book, before the Tumblr, there was Alberto’s Facebook Timeline.

And four immediate-and-simultaneously-light-years-ago today, this was the message I posted from Havana:

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To no one’s great surprise, the right place was located on the Malecón to release his ashes. And from Havana to Hungary to NYC, I’ve found him everywhere since.

High Five

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On the eve of five years since the loss of you, Alberto, I spent the evening with your family.

Glimpsed your competitive spirit in your niece, who also cheats at games the minute no one’s looking.

Dined across from your mother, who de-shells clams with your absurdly dainty, two-finger method.

Sat beside your sister, whose right foot also makes endless circles on the air.

A year or three ago, an encounter with your mannerisms was the shortest route to a public display of my grief. But among your favorite people tonight, these flashes of your uncanny DNA were like an evening-long high five with your spirit.

12

Mar

Reading White Elephant in the Room is like catching up with an old friend…thank you for allowing your readers into your heart so completely.
— iopenmymouth, Washington, D.C.
Two-and-a-half gays reunite for a fashionably late birthday dinner. P.S. Thank you, Mr. Daniels. The paparazzi always love a high five. 

Two-and-a-half gays reunite for a fashionably late birthday dinner. P.S. Thank you, Mr. Daniels. The paparazzi always love a high five. 

06

Mar

This girl officially puts the “happy” in my birthday.

This girl officially puts the “happy” in my birthday.

'Soaking up the moment like Alberto would do with a bit of bread & the sauce left over from a really good meal.'

'Soaking up the moment like Alberto would do with a bit of bread & the sauce left over from a really good meal.'

05

Mar

Been carded 3 times in 3 days, so yeah, I’ll be spending all my birthdays with Laurie Rae.

Been carded 3 times in 3 days, so yeah, I’ll be spending all my birthdays with Laurie Rae.

A certain European fashion magazine is shooting me & Laurie today at a military academy. We’re the only girls in a 2-mile radius and we are so not complaining.

A certain European fashion magazine is shooting me & Laurie today at a military academy. We’re the only girls in a 2-mile radius and we are so not complaining.

Seared scallops on a bed of sautéed spinach & parm risotto = the edible magic of being Laurie’s sous chef.

Seared scallops on a bed of sautéed spinach & parm risotto = the edible magic of being Laurie’s sous chef.

03

Mar

Oh, it’s a rainy 43 degrees outside? We’ll be here. With the Pinot. And the fish tacos. 

Oh, it’s a rainy 43 degrees outside? We’ll be here. With the Pinot. And the fish tacos. 

02

Mar

Sunset in Charleston with my Favorite Girl on Earth.

Sunset in Charleston with my Favorite Girl on Earth.

This is what packing looks like when you’re about to spend spring break in Charleston with your style-setting daughter.

A week in which you’ll celebrate your birthday with her for the first time. A week when you’ll be photographed together by UK fashion magazine Grazia for Mothering Day 2014. A week where she’ll show you every new place she’s discovered in  Chucktown since your last visit. 

Spring break ain’t usually the week a 20-year-old invites her mom to stay and play but this relationship is all of the rare.

And this afternoon—two years after our reunion—Adventure #6 for Tré and Laurie begins.

This is what packing looks like when you’re about to spend spring break in Charleston with your style-setting daughter.

A week in which you’ll celebrate your birthday with her for the first time. A week when you’ll be photographed together by UK fashion magazine Grazia for Mothering Day 2014. A week where she’ll show you every new place she’s discovered in Chucktown since your last visit.

Spring break ain’t usually the week a 20-year-old invites her mom to stay and play but this relationship is all of the rare.

And this afternoon—two years after our reunion—Adventure #6 for Tré and Laurie begins.

22

Feb

I’ve been super curious what a 10-minute dramatic interpretation of my 300-page memoir could look and sound like. 
Now I know. It’s a rush of laughter, tears, anger, hope, domesticity, foreign travel and HEART. So much effing heart.
Not only does Taylor (daisyannconfused) nail the cadence of my voice, she adapts many of my favorite moments in the bookthe ones I often perform at readings—into a cohesive one-act play.
Through this video, I relived the emotions of my engagement, our marriage and my last morning with Alberto. Thank you, Taylor, for bringing ”Splitting the Difference” to life and and interpreting it so beautifully. I am awed and I am honored.